Try to do something to prep yourself up.
Try dancing in your underwear, at home, before the party. You'll get your endorphins pumping, burn nervous energy and get all the dance moves out of your system, so you won't feel shy when you’re dancing. Just make sure the neighbors aren't home, and close the curtains.
Get yourself into an irresistible state of mind.
On your way to the party, close your eyes, and think about your latest -great- accomplishment. It could be a raise at the office, giving your spouse a massage he loved, or a five-mile run around the block. The idea is to set your 'mood compass' to that zone where you're relaxed, energized and radiantly confident.
Look cool, and act warm.
Wear your favorite curve-hugging jeans and your sexier-than-ever pumps, and then treat everyone like your favorite cousin. Nobody can resist somebody who's delighted to see them.
Instead of an opening line, try a compliment.
Forget asking him for his horoscope sign, try something more along the lines of 'Love your tie, it kinda reminds me of the painting that I love' or 'I'm dying to try that new half-up half-down look with my hair too, it's so pretty.
Lose the handbag.
Having something dangle from your arm all night, eventually, will get quite annoying. Ask a friend (who’s not dancing) carry it for you. Also, having a purse attached to your arm 24-7 makes somebody think that your are just about to leave. So find a place in the corner, put it there, but don’t forget it.
Talk football.
Defying gender expectations -in the right way- can really up your irresistibly quotient with guys. Think of how big, strong men get so much more appealing when they, say, dance with kids. Even better, talk food: 'Mmmmm, you gotta try the ribs' A woman with an appetite: sexy.
Be the only one at the party not drinking.
With a glass full of bubbly water and a lime in your hands, you won't have to confess your alcohol-free state till the end of the night, when everybody needs a ride home.
Schmooze with integrity.
3 musts: eye contact (and no looking over someone's shoulder), responses that show you're listening, and a nice smile, not one that's permanently glued to your face.
Break personal-space rules.
Yes, break them. Standing a little closer than strictly necessary invites intimacy; pull away can literally force the other person to do a bit of pursuing.
Grab something and pass it.
Preferably something slightly illicit, like a tray of dirty martinis. It'll give you a reason to approach anyone, a topic of conversation and an escape hatch - 'OOps! Got to keep passing- should the other person prove less than irresistible.
Speak up.
Be the guest to make the first toast of the night, even if it's simply a big, public thank-you: 'Cheers to our wonderful hosts for throwing this amazing party." Besides, what better trick for getting everyone at the party to see you.
Excerpted By: Timo Steve
2007 Shaques Publishing Inc
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