Saturday, August 25, 2007

ROADBLOCKS TO CHARISMA

Charisma is a trait or quality in our life that can be developed. It is not reserved for those who are extroverts and enjoy being in front of others.

The potential to be charismatic lies within each of us, but first we must remove hindrances from the development of this important personality characteristic. What are the possible obstructions?

a) Pride

A prideful person will have a tendency to look down on other people, feeling a sense of superiority. People will not follow or identify with a snobbish personality who is conscious of status and position.

b) Insecurity

Insecure people are not willing to take risk. As such, they remain comfortable and probably, unexciting.

c) Moodiness

This is an immature quality which is detrimental to personal relationships. Moody people are fickle and, thus, people who cannot be depended upon. Confidence is never built on a person who is subject to sullenness.

d) Perfectionism

This is an obsessive need to perform flawlessly. It stifles creativity and freedom, and it turns people way. Perfectionists can rarely affirm themselves; as such, it’s very difficult for them to affirm others.

e) Over Sensitivity

Oversensitive people are constantly licking their wounds. They look inward and are not aware of the needs of others. Naturally, people don’t flock around them.

f) Negativism

By definition, negativism is the opposite of charisma. A person with a constant negative attitude is depressing to be around. Their personality says no to life and people avoid them.

There’s no possibility of being a charismatic leader when no one wants to be around you.

Source: Be A People Person, John C. Maxwell

Copyright 2007 Shaques Publishing Inc

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